Why women have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded issue that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be filled with evils, cause heartache, and other harms. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, funds, age dissimilarity, religious education, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will define an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating wives.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek affairs. I am conserned typically though it is just the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us escape the real world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to turn the craving on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos culture has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will overcome their worries and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but society as well. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is terribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your family or anyone else? You would need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest group, enormous actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they feel happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the children to consider. Your money are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, usually the husband is sexually neglecting his wife for a tones of reasons. As a man I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have simply grown apart, our ordinary interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.